To be successful, lawyers must self-monitor. You must be fully aware of your non-verbal cues, your expression, the implications of your words. You must know how you come across to clients, opposing counsel, and the court, not to mention colleagues and staff. The natural tendency is to be circumspect.
Makes complete sense in court and in the office. Manage your ‘tell.’ Keep people from reading how you think and feel.
But, think about it.
Being fully aware of oneself, managing one’s verbal and non-verbal cues, absorbing all the info from the cues from the person you’re talking to (client, staff member, opposing counsel, colleague, etc.) and doing all that while analyzing everything you need to analyze, creates an internal gulf.
There’s an inherent strain to taking in all the information and stopping things from coming out.
You live your professional life masking who you really are. Keeping yourself from expressing what you really want to say creates stress. There’s a gap between what you portray and who you are.
What’s the answer? Recognize the cause of the challenge. Realize that the gulf between your thoughts and your feelings has a cause. And identify ways to bridge the gap back to yourself.
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